5 Must-Read Books for Married Couples, and Soon-to-be Married

No matter how young or how old you are, and what phase in life you’re in, you need to set aside some time to read a book. And I mean a real book with real pages! ;)

There’s so much noise in the internet these days (or am I just getting old?) that we have to intentionally step away from our gadgets, retreat to a quiet coffee shop or our favorite reading spot at home, and zone out in the pages of a book.

JDVThat’s my Mom’s beauty regimen lately. When we can’t find JDV (colleagues and employees call her by her initials) anywhere in her office or in the kitchen experimenting with recipes, I know exactly where to look: in her little reading nook by our garden, holding a book in her hand.

(Photo: Yes, that’s where to find her.)

Josiah’s Ministry to Married Couples

Reading books doesn’t only relax my Mom, it’s also her source of inspiration and encouragement, especially in our line of business.

The thing is, Josiah’s Catering is not just a catering business or a wedding industry supplier. Essentially, this business has grown because of my Mom & Dad’s heart for couples, relationships, and families. We’re committed to making beautiful weddings happen, but at the core of that commitment is our desire for couples to start their journey right in this married life.

Often I would hear my Mom and my Dad giving advise to couples–to put God in the center of their relationship, and to always love and respect one another in obedience to God. And I know that both my Mom and Dad have a wealth of knowledge in this area because of their own experiences, and because of their desire to keep reading and learning.

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That being said, here are some of my Mom’s book recommendations for married couples and/or soon-to-be married couples:

1. Love is a Verb by Gary Chapman

Love is a Verb by Gary Chapman

“Dr. Gary Chapman has spent his life helping people communicate love more effectively and in turn build more satisfying and lasting relationships. His book The Five Love Languages is a regular on the New York Times bestsellers list–even after being in print for fifteen years–and has made the term “love language” a part of everyday speech.Love Is a Verb takes his teaching to the next level. Rather than a typical relationship self-help book filled with lengthy explanations of principles and techniques, it is a compilation of true stories displaying love in action.

These stories–written by everyday people–go straight to the hearts of readers, who often say that illustrations are the most effective parts of a book. Gary Chapman adds a “Love Lesson” to each story, showing readers how they can apply the same principles to their own relationships.”

2. The Language of Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

The Language of Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerich

“Why does communication between couples remain the number one marriage issue? “Because,” says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, “most spouses don’t know that they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in ‘code, ‘ but they won’t crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect.

Dr. Eggerichs’ best-selling book launched a revolution in how couples relate to each other. Here he presents a practical, step-by-step approach for how husbands and wives can learn to speak each other’s distinctly different language–respect for him, love for her. The result is mutual understanding and a successful, happy marriage.”

3. Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Discoll

Real Marriage by Mark Driscoll

“Most marriage books assume the author did it right. Most marriage books barely mention friendship. Most marriage books use “intimacy” as code for “sex.” This is not one of those books.

In Real Marriage, Pastor Mark Driscoll and his wife, Grace, share how they have struggled and how they have found healing through the power of the only reliable source: the Bible. They believe friendship is fundamental to marriage but not easy to maintain. So they offer practical advice on how to make your spouse your best friend – and keep it that way. And they know from experience that sex-related issues need to be addressed directly.”

4. Things I wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman

“This is not a book simply to be read. It is a book to be experienced. The material lends itself to heart-felt discussions by dating or engaged couples. To jump-start the exchanges, each short chapter includes insightful “Talking it Over” questions and suggestions. And, the book includes information on interactive websites as well as books that will enhance the couples experience.

Dr. Chapman even includes a thought-provoking appendix. By understanding and balancing the five key aspects of life, dating couples can experience a healthy dating relationship. A revealing learning exercise for dating couples is included at the end.”

5. The Marriage Project by Kathi Lipp

The Marriage Project by Kathi Lipp

“What would marriages look like if for 21 days, husbands and wives put their marriage on project status? Plenty of books describe how to improve marriage, how to save a marriage, and how to ramp up the intimacy in a marriage. In The Marriage Project, Kathi Lipp shows readers how to put the fun back in marriage with 21 simple yet effective projects, such as doing something they enjoyed together before they got married or flirting with their spouse via e-mail or text messages.”

Have you read any of these titles before? What do you think about these books? Feel free to share in the comments.

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These titles are available at Matus Wedding Boutique (5F, Mega Mall Atrium), and in some select National and Fully Book branches.